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Coming to America to be gay - migration to United States of gay Latin Americans
Advocate, The, March 27, 2001 by David Kirby
For gays and lesbians from Latin America, coming out often means joining the sexual migration to the U.S.
A few years ago, the Washington, D.C., offices of LLEGO, the national Latino gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender group, received a call from an affluent young Argentine, freshly arrived in Miami and ready to begin his glorious new gay life in the United States--just like he'd seen on television.
"He heard that where LLEGO was, you could be openly gay. So he hopped on a plane, contacted us, and said, `I'm here! And I want to live as a gay man,'" recalls Martin Ornelas-Quintero, 37, the group's executive director. "He showed up that afternoon in our office and really had the expectation that as a gay person you can live the life you see on Will & Grace--like you get a toaster when you join the club."
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The young man, who spoke no English, had no working papers, and knew nobody in the United States, still expected "an apartment, a job, a boyfriend, fabulous friends, and to live the happy gay life," says Ornelas-Quintero, whose family moved to the United States from Tijuana when he was 6. "It was funny, but it was so sad."
But the man also sought freedom. "He talked about holding your partner's hand, kissing in public, living openly," Ornelas-Quintero says, adding that the accidental immigrant, on learning that without papers he could do little more than wash dishes, boarded the next flight back to Buenos Aires.
Of course, most gay and lesbian Latin Americans immigrate here for the same reasons straight Latinos do: jobs, education, and family and friends. But there is often an added incentive--even if it's not the overriding one--for the long, sometimes illegal journey. They are coming to the United States to be gay.
The combined pressures of machismo, religion, family, and Latin society on gays and lesbians living south of the border and the allure of a more open life in the big gay cities of the United States--known as El Norte--draw many into a migration that is partly for material reasons, partly for personal ones, not unlike the migration of gays from small U.S. towns.
Class plays a big role. Poor immigrants from Latin America rarely come purely for sexual freedom. Survival is the only motivation they need. But among middle- and upper-class Latinos, who might enjoy economic opportunity at home, the chance to live openly in the United States makes this country a much bigger draw.
Rafael Diaz, research director of the Institute on Sexuality, Inequality, and Health at San Francisco State University, surveyed 912 Latino men at gay Latino/a venues in Miami, New York, and San Francisco. Of them, 73% were immigrants.
Diaz says the desire to escape oppression and family pressures often plays a bigger role in gay Latino immigration than any enticements of the mythically "fabulous" gay life here. But, he notes, it's the same with most immigrants, who feel more "pushed" from their homeland than "pulled" to their new land.
Among gay men claiming that sexuality was a big factor in immigrating, "the first thing they feared was deep shame about dishonoring and hurting their families" by coming out.
Men especially "feel they have to remove themselves from their family, and that's the main motivation of sexual migration, not fabulous bars and clubs," he says, noting that Latin America "has plenty of gay bars."
Diaz argues that sexual migration often happens because "the person couldn't resolve the whole integration of being gay in their own context. These are often people in very homophobic situations, under pressure to remain closeted with jobs, family, or friends."
Carlos Rodriguez, a 32-year-old drama therapist, moved from Puerto Rico to New York in 1992 "officially to go to graduate school," he says. "But at that moment I had just acknowledged to myself that I was gay. I needed it as a good excuse to leave home. It was essential to leave so I could figure things out on my own, even though I knew nothing about New York."
Once in the United States, many gay Latinos face new problems, such as racism, alienation, and sexual objectification, says Diaz, adding that 80% of the men he surveyed reported bouts of depression, 44% suffered anxiety, and 17% had thoughts of suicide.
"The gay community isn't very hospitable to immigrants, who come into a world of sex and drugs but don't have the same access and connections" as other gays, says Diaz. "Too many Latin gays feel excluded from the more participatory aspects of the larger community."
Raul Aguilar, 30, who moved to the United States from Mexico City in 1985, has had to confront racism from straight and gay U.S. natives. "In a way, I haven't really adjusted," says Aguilar, an artist who also works at Las Aguilas, a social support group for San Francisco's enormous lesbian and gay Latino population. "It still feels like a balancing act."
When he came out, Aguilar says, "some folks in the commumty at large ignored me or just saw me as an exotic fuck. I was called `stupid' because I have an accent. I have been the only gay Latino in a roomful of gay white men on many occasions. I felt I had to work really hard to make the `scene' my own."
